Why A Bad Marriage?

Why A Bad Marriage?

Why do so many marriages, including Christians fall short?

There is a scriptural explanation why marriages struggle and to better understand why, we must turn our attention to the Bible. Genesis. 5:2 says, "Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created."

God Created male and female with the emphasis of ONENESS. Notice that God created the female from Adam. There is no incident in the Bible where God created something from another creature other than Adam. This is important to understand in order to acknowledge our role as husbands and wives. God created woman for man to remain as one. Note: God called their name: Adam (Genesis. 5:2). God never gave this first woman a name. She did not gain her name until after sin destroyed their lives. Her name was given by Adam, not God. The record bares this out (Genesis. 3:20).

Adam was in need of a help-meet. He could have functioned without her. He was already an accomplished man by virtue of God's creative work. But God saw that it was not good for Adam to be alone (Genesis.2:18). Before the woman was made, Adam was one person. After the woman was made, Adam remained one person with two bodies. It is the neglect of this doctrine of oneness by either ignoring it or ignorance of it that explains why marriages are a failure for the most part.

Scripture says in Genesis 2:24, "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh".

It is not hard to understand why a man or woman who is separated by death or divorce finds themselves living with a sense of incompleteness. Why? A part of their being has been stripped from them leaving them vulnerable in life.

Marriage problems always conceive when we assume that we can function completely independent of our mate. This is rebellion against God that will haunt us for the rest of our lives.

The answer to any difficulty that a marriage may be consumed by is found in God's Word. God emphasizes ONENESS. This fundamental doctrine on marriage is the only suitable challenge against all vain perceptions that destroy the relationship that God intended between man and woman.

The basis of a holy and happy marriage is the glory of God. Ephesians 5:22,33 demonstrates this. If you are going to have the marriage that God designed, You must:

a. Husband: Give your life for and to your wife even as Christ did for the Church (Eph. 5:25)

b. Wife: Live your life FOR your husband even as the Church is UNTO Christ (Eph. 5:22,24).

This is the only pattern that must be acknowledged for marriage. Why? Because it is biblical and it is the only form of marriage that glorifies God.

Sincerely, Dr. Arthur Belanger